How to Heal Your Grief

by Diane Eble, CHCCP and editor of The Healing Code 

If you weren’t dealing with grief before the global pandemic, I suspect you’re dealing with it now, in one way or another. Who hasn’t lost something in the pandemic, even if it’s only the familiar way of being able to “do life”?

Many are dealing with loss of so much more. Loss of health. Loss of a loved one (including a pet). Loss of connections. Loss of work, of income. Loss of a sense of stability. Loss of a dream. Loss of faith. Loss of a marriage.

If you have unhealed grief issues from the past, likely any of the more recent losses just make the grief feel even worse. Grief is cumulative, and time does not automatically heal it. That is a myth.

Dr. Bernard McGrane, Professor of Sociology at Chapman University, says that “unresolved grief is the major underlying issue in most people’s lives.” Incomplete recovery from grief can have lifelong negative effects on your capacity for happiness—not to mention your health.

If you’ve felt that your healing has not progressed as you would like, it could well be that unhealed grief is the block.

If you were to tally all the losses of your life, how many would you say feel resolved?

If none or few of them are resolved, I suggest you make grief recovery a priority. According to grief recovery specialists, grief is the natural human response to loss, and there is a process of recovery from grief that is specific.

That process is outlined in  The Grief Recovery Handbook, 20th Anniversary Expanded Edition: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses including Health, Career, and Faith by John W. James and Russell Friedman.

I recommend this book, but I think that using The Healing Code(s) to heal those memories adds much more power and depth of healing than working through the process outlined alone. The Healing Codes add that energetic component to the grief recovery process that I think is indispensable.

And if you want more personalized help with working through your grief,  check out my coaching packages.

Related articles:

• The Different “Flavors” of Grief
• Grief, Grace, Gratitude, and Grit
• Leaning into the Gray Places